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« Reply #45 on: January 03, 2010, 08:52:33 PM »

thats funny because I do the same with my coach - today for example 'yes I know, I wasn't on ballance on my left foot and then I shaped and ... " so it goes Cheesy

Although we would rather not make errors, there is a real satusfaction to figuring out what we did wrong ourselves.  That in itself is an affirmation of having learned.
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« Reply #46 on: January 04, 2010, 01:12:53 AM »

I think we all at times can be very hard on myself, I often come home with the whip lashes..... Roll Eyes I would prefer that the coach does it and not me....as if we both do it well it will take weeks for the wounds to recover!  Tongue
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« Reply #47 on: January 04, 2010, 06:25:59 AM »

well, thats a little extreme I think Q - but if it works for you Tongue
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« Reply #48 on: January 04, 2010, 07:42:04 AM »

well, thats a little extreme I think Q - but if it works for you Tongue

metaphorically... Cool
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« Reply #49 on: January 04, 2010, 01:55:17 PM »

well, thats a little extreme I think Q - but if it works for you Tongue

metaphorically... Cool

Oh shucks - I thought I was going to start a new topic in the extra-extra-extra-remote enclave board of PDO
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« Reply #50 on: January 04, 2010, 06:44:43 PM »

well, thats a little extreme I think Q - but if it works for you Tongue

metaphorically... Cool

Oh shucks - I thought I was going to start a new topic in the extra-extra-extra-remote enclave board of PDO

next time.... Tongue
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« Reply #51 on: February 13, 2010, 09:01:18 PM »

Do you think the level of brutality can also be where you are in your dancing journey. If you are a beginner and had someone bark at you I dont think you would be back, but if you are climbing are keen to learn more how would you find someone yelling at you and I believe they do.
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« Reply #52 on: February 14, 2010, 04:51:41 AM »

Do you think the level of brutality can also be where you are in your dancing journey. If you are a beginner and had someone bark at you I dont think you would be back, but if you are climbing are keen to learn more how would you find someone yelling at you and I believe they do.

Oh definitely!
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« Reply #53 on: February 14, 2010, 04:59:45 AM »

but can you cope without taking it personally
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« Reply #54 on: February 14, 2010, 05:01:58 AM »

but can you cope without taking it personally

A coach will only say something they see needs improving, so it's not like they're attacking me. Plus, I'm paying them to be critical anyway. That's just how I see it.
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« Reply #55 on: February 14, 2010, 06:27:41 AM »

but can you cope without taking it personally

A coach will only say something they see needs improving, so it's not like they're attacking me. Plus, I'm paying them to be critical anyway. That's just how I see it.

I agree, but it depends on the personality type....I would like a person to say it like it is.
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« Reply #56 on: February 14, 2010, 07:03:46 AM »

It also depends on who says it.  Roll Eyes
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« Reply #57 on: February 14, 2010, 07:06:40 AM »

Yesterday i got a dose of brutal honesty from a fellow competitor during the competition (not in our heat but a rising star junior).  She told me I was not extending my neck enough.  It stung a bit - but she was right and I think it really helped....
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« Reply #58 on: February 16, 2010, 07:25:56 AM »

Yesterday i got a dose of brutal honesty from a fellow competitor during the competition (not in our heat but a rising star junior).  She told me I was not extending my neck enough.  It stung a bit - but she was right and I think it really helped....

well at this you took it for what is was....some people would not even if the person was right
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« Reply #59 on: February 16, 2010, 12:10:39 PM »

Do you think the level of brutality can also be where you are in your dancing journey. If you are a beginner and had someone bark at you I dont think you would be back, but if you are climbing are keen to learn more how would you find someone yelling at you and I believe they do.

Oh definitely!
i agree. and a wise instructor will know to hold back on the newbs. shoot, even seasoned students can take offense easily... being harsh on a newb is likely professional suicide!  Tongue
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