Brutal Honesty in Lessons

[elisedance]

thats funny because I do the same with my coach - today for example 'yes I know, I wasn't on ballance on my left foot and then I shaped and ... " so it goes

Although we would rather not make errors, there is a real satusfaction to figuring out what we did wrong ourselves.  That in itself is an affirmation of having learned.

[QPO]

I think we all at times can be very hard on myself, I often come home with the whip lashes..... I would prefer that the coach does it and not me....as if we both do it well it will take weeks for the wounds to recover! 

[elisedance]

well, thats a little extreme I think Q - but if it works for you

[QPO]

well, thats a little extreme I think Q - but if it works for you

metaphorically...

[elisedance]

well, thats a little extreme I think Q - but if it works for you

metaphorically...

Oh shucks - I thought I was going to start a new topic in the extra-extra-extra-remote enclave board of PDO

[QPO]

well, thats a little extreme I think Q - but if it works for you

metaphorically...

Oh shucks - I thought I was going to start a new topic in the extra-extra-extra-remote enclave board of PDO

next time....

[QPO]

Do you think the level of brutality can also be where you are in your dancing journey. If you are a beginner and had someone bark at you I dont think you would be back, but if you are climbing are keen to learn more how would you find someone yelling at you and I believe they do.

[SwingWaltz]

Do you think the level of brutality can also be where you are in your dancing journey. If you are a beginner and had someone bark at you I dont think you would be back, but if you are climbing are keen to learn more how would you find someone yelling at you and I believe they do.

Oh definitely!

[QPO]

but can you cope without taking it personally

[SwingWaltz]

but can you cope without taking it personally

A coach will only say something they see needs improving, so it's not like they're attacking me. Plus, I'm paying them to be critical anyway. That's just how I see it.

[QPO]

but can you cope without taking it personally

A coach will only say something they see needs improving, so it's not like they're attacking me. Plus, I'm paying them to be critical anyway. That's just how I see it.

I agree, but it depends on the personality type....I would like a person to say it like it is.

[SwingWaltz]

It also depends on who says it. 

[elisedance]

Yesterday i got a dose of brutal honesty from a fellow competitor during the competition (not in our heat but a rising star junior).  She told me I was not extending my neck enough.  It stung a bit - but she was right and I think it really helped....

[QPO]

Yesterday i got a dose of brutal honesty from a fellow competitor during the competition (not in our heat but a rising star junior).  She told me I was not extending my neck enough.  It stung a bit - but she was right and I think it really helped....

well at this you took it for what is was....some people would not even if the person was right

[samina]

Do you think the level of brutality can also be where you are in your dancing journey. If you are a beginner and had someone bark at you I dont think you would be back, but if you are climbing are keen to learn more how would you find someone yelling at you and I believe they do.

Oh definitely!

i agree. and a wise instructor will know to hold back on the newbs. shoot, even seasoned students can take offense easily... being harsh on a newb is likely professional suicide!