Pick me - please?..... Pretty please??

[Beachbum]

hey, BB - will you dance wiht me
PS, before you answer, - I'm going to be in Chicago in November...

You know where to find me.

..........SHE knows where to find me too.  (Should I move this to the "Love stinks" thread?   )

hey, I hope I don't deserve that too...
what did I do?

If you have to ask, there's no point in me explaining it.     <sob, whimper>

( Just feel like poking sticks into various cages today and noting the reaction...     Great sport!)

[elisedance]

grrrrRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRR

[better be a little careful...]

[dream a little dream]

hey, BB - will you dance wiht me
PS, before you answer, - I'm going to be in Chicago in November...

You know where to find me.

..........SHE knows where to find me too.  (Should I move this to the "Love stinks" thread?   )

hey, I hope I don't deserve that too...
what did I do?

If you have to ask, there's no point in me explaining it.     <sob, whimper>

( Just feel like poking sticks into various cages today and noting the reaction...     Great sport!)

Sigh.  No poking sticks here! 
Let's all play nice boys and girls!

[David Bailey]

If you are a gentle-man like me, you wont mind being asked, but  a man following  the milonguero codigos will say no.

That's because those particular codigos are stupid; or at least, inapplicable to many locations.

[StageKat]

Well let's see... at my own studio for a social party... I get asked the fair amount of times most nights...(sometimes it's a complete bust) At my studio we have two groups of social dancers ..those that dance with anyone...and those couples that only dance with each other. Those couples are pretty much left alone and are only split up if one of their instructors asks them to dance. On the odd occasion because I am in the safety of my home studio I may ask a wife "Can I borrow your husband for this dance?" but it's pretty rare. 

Out dancing socially in a club or something.... well that's a whole other ball game... I'm a complete social leper when it comes to guys I don't know asking me to dance...unless I bring a lead or two in with the group I'm going out with I'll hang around the edge of the dance floor all night without one invitation.   I'm not quite at the point yet (I'm almost there I can feel it) where I'll ask the guy for a dance. Once that happens... look out! 

[ZPomeroy]

its interesting how different the Australian dancing "social" scene is to the rest of the world, from what i have experienced, anyone asks anyone, if they dont know, then you teach them. There are only a slight few who say that they will only dance if the man asks them, but they are far and few between

Zac

[Lioness]

Personally I'm a lkittle shy of asking a man I don't know, but that could be because they are all a lot older than me. If I go out social dancing I usually stick to my partner or, if he doesn't want ti dance a particular one, I ask one of the other young men.

[QPO]

its interesting how different the Australian dancing "social" scene is to the rest of the world, from what i have experienced, anyone asks anyone, if they dont know, then you teach them. There are only a slight few who say that they will only dance if the man asks them, but they are far and few between

Zac

That has been my experience also most of the time. I have been to a few dances thought where the older women (60+) are left sitting there as the older men want to dance with younger women...grrrr

[cornutt]

That has been my experience also most of the time. I have been to a few dances thought where the older women (60+) are left sitting there as the older men want to dance with younger women...grrrr

Somewhat in defense of those guys, I will say that sometimes those are women who were shown a few social foxtrot steps 40 years ago, and they haven't had a lesson since.     The only thing more frustrating than dancing with a follower who doesn't know how to move or follow is dancing with such a follower who also happens to think she's great because she's been doing the same three foxtrot steps for decades.   

But yeah, what QPO mentioned does happen.  And no, it is neither fair nor a good idea for a leader who really wants to expand his leading skills.  There are some older women at our studio who are fine dancers, much better than most of the younger ones.  I wouldn't dream of going to the studio on Friday night and not asking them at least once.  I will mention that there also exists the flip side of this -- people who will criticize an older man if he ever asks a younger woman to dance. 

[QPO]

I can understand that too, the women I am thinking off are their regularly and have kept up-to-date with the dances that are available...I think as we get older we become invisible


So on that basis when I get older I am going to have bright red hair so they cant miss me

[QPO]

That has been my experience also most of the time. I have been to a few dances thought where the older women (60+) are left sitting there as the older men want to dance with younger women...grrrr

But yeah, what QPO mentioned does happen.  And no, it is neither fair nor a good idea for a leader who really wants to expand his leading skills.  There are some older women at our studio who are fine dancers, much better than most of the younger ones.  I wouldn't dream of going to the studio on Friday night and not asking them at least once.  I will mention that there also exists the flip side of this -- people who will criticize an older man if he ever asks a younger woman to dance. 

Good for you....if everyone did that everyone would get a dance :-) and those that criticize are being judgmental...

[Rugby]

I dance with the older men more than the younger as I find the older men far more considerate.

[cornutt]

I dance with the older men more than the younger as I find the older men far more considerate.

One of the tragedies of modern society is that young men these days don't get any instruction on gentlemanly manners.  (And the young ladies don't demand it because they don't know about it either.)

[emeralddancer]

I dance with the older men more than the younger as I find the older men far more considerate.

One of the tragedies of modern society is that young men these days don't get any instruction on gentlemanly manners.  (And the young ladies don't demand it because they don't know about it either.)

let's vote

All in favor of etiquette lessons for both sexes say   Aye!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[cornutt]

let's vote

All in favor of etiquette lessons for both sexes say   Aye!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I've got both hands up!