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« on: December 20, 2011, 06:14:39 AM »

[Edit: I picked this up from BTM's post on the chat topic.  Forget the show, forget the competition, forget everything else; Isn't this what partnerdancing is really about? ee]

In the interests of scientific investigation....

I had a lovely dance of sublime whassermajig with Ms R...to some slow tango pieces
and half way through she sorted of snuggled into me, and it didnt feel like I was leading any more.she just seemed to know where I was going
and I knew where she was going..

a post mortem discussion revealed she had stopped thinking about following and had just relaxed into dancing with me.

It was needles to say, delicious, intimate, and heavenly.

 Tongue Smiley Grin Cool
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« Reply #1 on: December 20, 2011, 07:07:28 AM »

In the interests of scientific investigation....

I had a lovely dance of sublime whassermajig with Ms R...to some slow tango pieces
and half way through she sorted of snuggled into me, and it didnt feel like I was leading any more.she just seemed to know where I was going
and I knew where she was going..

a post mortem discussion revealed she had stopped thinking about following and had just relaxed into dancing with me.

It was needles to say, delicious, intimate, and heavenly.

 Tongue Smiley Grin Cool

sounds bliss!
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« Reply #2 on: December 20, 2011, 08:25:15 AM »

In the interests of scientific investigation....

I had a lovely dance of sublime whassermajig with Ms R...to some slow tango pieces
and half way through she sorted of snuggled into me, and it didnt feel like I was leading any more.she just seemed to know where I was going
and I knew where she was going..

a post mortem discussion revealed she had stopped thinking about following and had just relaxed into dancing with me.

It was needles to say, delicious, intimate, and heavenly.

 Tongue Smiley Grin Cool

Otherwise known as partnerdancing nirvana...
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« Reply #3 on: December 20, 2011, 02:55:07 PM »

It strikes me that partner dancing, in it's original form, would have had that "snuggle moment" as it's primary object.  It was, after all, one of the most important elements of courtship-- a rare opportunity for a couple to be "alone" in the midst of chaperones and parents etc.  In focusing on the performance element over the social intent, I think we run the risk of losing some of the joy of dancing, and consequently some of the sought-after expression.  What fun that you got to experience it, BTM!
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« Reply #4 on: December 20, 2011, 04:14:17 PM »

But surely I am not the only one for whom competition actually enhances this feeling?
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« Reply #5 on: December 20, 2011, 06:19:15 PM »

It strikes me that partner dancing, in it's original form, would have had that "snuggle moment" as it's primary object.  It was, after all, one of the most important elements of courtship-- a rare opportunity for a couple to be "alone" in the midst of chaperones and parents etc.  In focusing on the performance element over the social intent, I think we run the risk of losing some of the joy of dancing, and consequently some of the sought-after expression. 
Amen to that!
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« Reply #6 on: December 20, 2011, 06:20:31 PM »

But surely I am not the only one for whom competition actually enhances this feeling?
I'm all for competing (or dancing anywhere for that matter) with this feeling in mind.
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« Reply #7 on: December 20, 2011, 06:34:03 PM »

But surely I am not the only one for whom competition actually enhances this feeling?
I'm all for competing (or dancing anywhere for that matter) with this feeling in mind.

hm. and why don't you live in toronto?  Just sayin' ... Roll Eyes
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« Reply #8 on: December 20, 2011, 08:42:36 PM »

But surely I am not the only one for whom competition actually enhances this feeling?

I've never competed in dance, so my perspective is limited, but I am surprised that it would happen that way.  Perhaps it's an element of Audience Effect (experts do even better with audiences, novices do even worse)?  I wonder if the intension of learning to dance for competition vs. personal enjoyment/social interaction affects the way we approach learning and partnership etc.
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« Reply #9 on: December 20, 2011, 09:05:04 PM »

But surely I am not the only one for whom competition actually enhances this feeling?

I've never competed in dance, so my perspective is limited, but I am surprised that it would happen that way.  Perhaps it's an element of Audience Effect (experts do even better with audiences, novices do even worse)?  I wonder if the intension of learning to dance for competition vs. personal enjoyment/social interaction affects the way we approach learning and partnership etc.

Thanks for the complement (least I managed to find one Grin )  and i think you are right there is an audience effect - its as if the audience becomes a part of the whole expression dynamic.  But that must be fairly common - the little girl that performs 'I am a teapot' to relatives enjoys the song far more with the aunt audience....

I have yet to find the partner that complements this though.  That would be shangri-la for me I think - a lead that reciprcated the nirvanah - and who grew with competition... Where is that guy?
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« Reply #10 on: December 20, 2011, 09:10:57 PM »

perhaps someone should approach Pino about cloning himself?   Wink
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« Reply #11 on: December 20, 2011, 09:18:51 PM »

perhaps someone should approach Pino about cloning himself?   Wink
I'll take one - during the cloning could they add a few growth hormones? Roll Eyes
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« Reply #12 on: December 20, 2011, 09:24:08 PM »

perhaps someone should approach Pino about cloning himself?   Wink
I'll take one - during the cloning could they add a few growth hormones? Roll Eyes

might as well aim for the stars, right?
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« Reply #13 on: December 20, 2011, 11:52:12 PM »

It strikes me that partner dancing, in it's original form, would have had that "snuggle moment" as it's primary object.  It was, after all, one of the most important elements of courtship-- a rare opportunity for a couple to be "alone" in the midst of chaperones and parents etc.  In focusing on the performance element over the social intent, I think we run the risk of losing some of the joy of dancing, and consequently some of the sought-after expression.  What fun that you got to experience it, BTM!

"Snuggle Moment", I like that Smiley I have to say that this is one of the reasons why I got hooked on dancing initially. This is also something that has been eluding me. I find that the average level of skill on the social floor is not very high, wobbly frames, forceful/pushy leads, etc. All this noise makes it hard to relax into a dance. That's the reason for wanting to compete. I am more likely to experience this dancing bliss during hours of practice with someone closer to my skill level. That's my fantasy anyway Smiley
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« Reply #14 on: December 21, 2011, 12:03:47 AM »

ahh!  now I understand the connection with competition!
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