I tend to read it exactly as you put it - but before you dismiss the woman's role look at the current world champions. Where would Arunas be if he had not snagged Katusha? There is a partnership that might well be an example of the opposite (though you wold not hear a man admit it).
Maybe thats the problem - the people making the judgements are all men...

On the other hand, perhaps its also true that the tip men get to choose who to dance with ...