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dlgodud
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« on: October 11, 2010, 12:05:14 PM »

Well, I have a serious problem. It seems a habit in my ordinary life extends to my dancing life.
I can't stay with one teacher for a long time. Why??? Embarrassed

I know this is kind of bad, but why I cannot stay with one teacher for a long time as others do??
I have not changed my teacher yet, but I start to think if I have to seek a new teacher or not.
I am battling almost every time I think about dancing, and it drives me crazy.

Please, please why and when you want to change your teachers or partners.

I need to have some self criticizing moments and find out what is the problem with me? Roll Eyes
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« Reply #1 on: October 11, 2010, 01:32:46 PM »

I suppose the first thing is to try to identify why you want to change?  Are you disatisfied with the teaching?  Do you not get on?  Are you afraid of developing a relationship (crush, whatever)?  Or what?  Try to focus on the emotion that is making you want to move...
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« Reply #2 on: October 11, 2010, 04:07:23 PM »

My biggest problem is I am always seeking new stuff. I get bored so easily with everything. So my dissatisfaction is due to not getting new stuff anymore. My teacher is excellent, but once you keep hear the same thing over and over, you sometimes feel like you know everything. But it is not true, and I know that a new teacher will do the same, but.....

I do think if I can execute everything correctly what my teacher is asking? No. But, IMO, practicing to become a better dancer is different from getting a new information.  Roll Eyes

I even think I should start to dance standard again. Maybe it will help me to stay calm...... Huh
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« Reply #3 on: October 11, 2010, 04:53:09 PM »

Then maybe you should take lessons from an international champion - or better still get an AM partner, then the ground is always shifting...
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« Reply #4 on: October 11, 2010, 10:45:41 PM »

dlg .....maybe discuss with present teacher
1. some goals to work on or towards
2. ask for some new steps, new technique, new exercises/drills

If you are comfortable enough with you present teacher, discuss this with them. They maybe able to help you and keep you from getting 'bored'. Ask the teacher to present the information to you in another manner. If it is primarily visual, try seeing if the teacher can be tactile.

Also ask yourself, what exactly are you bored with? the teacher? the steps? the information in the way it is presented to you? The same-ness of the teacher? the studio? the dances you are learning? the material?

What level are you at? does the teacher teach you in a manner that it is repetitive of steps, patterns?

Ask the teacher if they can incorporate a step or two a level higher than you are learning periodically to keep things fresh.

OR ask the teacher to lead/follow you in a new step without teaching it to you at first to see if you can lead/follow it.

ASk the teacher to teach you opposite of what you are learning. If you are a lead, ask to learn follow or vis a versa.  Smiley

Hope this helps. Just throwing out suggestions.  Grin
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« Reply #5 on: October 12, 2010, 07:40:13 AM »

How often is too often? I have changed partners/teachers quite a bit too, but I don't think it's had any negative effect on my dancing.
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« Reply #6 on: October 12, 2010, 09:29:26 AM »

How often is too often? I have changed partners/teachers quite a bit too, but I don't think it's had any negative effect on my dancing.
Did you read the OP?  Roll Eyes
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« Reply #7 on: October 12, 2010, 05:43:37 PM »

I second additional lessons with some-one else - gives a different perspective on things & adds some variety.  I changed teachers a number of times in the past - mainly due to dissatisfaction/frustration with what/how I was being taught, amongst other things.  Do you get on well with your teacher?  Maybe you just haven't found the 'right' person to teach you?
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« Reply #8 on: October 12, 2010, 06:05:14 PM »

How often is too often? I have changed partners/teachers quite a bit too, but I don't think it's had any negative effect on my dancing.
Did you read the OP?  Roll Eyes

I think I did.

But still, OP can be changing teacher as often as a couple of month or as often as a couple of years. It depends on what she's talking about.
If OP is changing teacher every couple of month, then there's something she must look at. But if it was every couple of years or even every year, it could just mean that she's ready to move on to a new stage of learning that her current teacher can't provide....or other circumstances.
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« Reply #9 on: October 12, 2010, 06:09:10 PM »

How often is too often? I have changed partners/teachers quite a bit too, but I don't think it's had any negative effect on my dancing.
Did you read the OP?  Roll Eyes

I think I did.

But still, OP can be changing teacher as often as a couple of month or as often as a couple of years. It depends on what she's talking about.
If OP is changing teacher every couple of month, then there's something she must look at. But if it was every couple of years or even every year, it could just mean that she's ready to move on to a new stage of learning that her current teacher can't provide....or other circumstances.

To answer your question, my current teacher is 3rd one in this year. It is often actually. See I am looking for 4th one.  Huh
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« Reply #10 on: October 12, 2010, 08:01:03 PM »

If it's a life habit - getting restless and being impatient - and you're aware of it, what if you tried to recognize it and control it when you're aware of it? Just remind yourself that things cannot be fun and interesting all the time, you need to spend some time working on the same thing over and over and over until it gets better. I think with life habits when you're aware of them, that you're being restless just because, then you can consciously make yourself focus on what needs to be done.
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« Reply #11 on: October 12, 2010, 11:25:37 PM »

If it's a life habit - getting restless and being impatient - and you're aware of it, what if you tried to recognize it and control it when you're aware of it? Just remind yourself that things cannot be fun and interesting all the time, you need to spend some time working on the same thing over and over and over until it gets better. I think with life habits when you're aware of them, that you're being restless just because, then you can consciously make yourself focus on what needs to be done.

Thank you for your input. I know that I am like that, and actually I have been changed a lot recently.

The thing is that I think my expectation about what my progress is in dancing  is different from what my teacher expects. Based on my teacher's words, I am doing actually very well (Unless he is totally lying) and he is very happy with my progress. He even mentioned that he can see differences I make every week. But, I am not satisfied with.

I think I already mentioned with my dissatisfaction to him, and he looked that he did not understand why I was not satisfied with my progress.

I don't know if it was just a coincidence, but he actually mentioned that I had to have a goal. So I can stay focused. And, I told him that I would let him know once my next goal is set.

One more thing was some parts of chacha routine were changed. I fell on the floor during chacha and told him that I did not like some parts. He changed it and I kind liked it.

So I guess that my desire to change is settled a little bit until next time.  Wink
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« Reply #12 on: October 13, 2010, 05:18:49 AM »

If I read  between the lines, (and I'm being serious here) you are actually very ambitious and want to improve to stardom.  But you feel your teacher only wants you to improve as an average student.  Is this correct? 

BY the way I can totally relate because I've been through a very simiilar thing with the violin when I was searching for a teacher. I'll expand when I hear back if I have it right.
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« Reply #13 on: October 13, 2010, 06:41:15 AM »

I believe that everyone should change teachers from time to time, otherwise I dont believe you grow. As your dancing improves so should your understanding. I dont believe you should change for change sake. but I am sure you know when it is time.
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dlgodud
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« Reply #14 on: October 13, 2010, 12:28:57 PM »

If I read  between the lines, (and I'm being serious here) you are actually very ambitious and want to improve to stardom.  But you feel your teacher only wants you to improve as an average student.  Is this correct? 

I don't deny I am very ambitious, but I am not sure that if I want to improve to stardom. I just have my own plans and expectation about me, and I like to accomplish it. But, who does not want to improve? I think everyone wants to do it if possible and has a chance.
Comparing with other people is not my thing. I don't usually do it because everyone is different and has a different goal in their life.
I think one time I and my teacher discussed how I do for things. He does things one by one so he takes all steps to reach certain levels. But, I skip steps often if I think that is suit for me. So, I see that he is willing to follow my way most of time, but sometimes it must be hard for him as well. I guess the moment when we cannot agree, that is the moment I am not satisfied with. I see that he wants to slow down a little bit (Don't know the reasons for it) sometimes.

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