Blaming Your Dance Partner

[Some guy]

Is that supposed to be a threat ED?   

[emeralddancer]

nope ...a PROMISE!!!!!!!!!!!

[elisedance]

Thats probably the main reason for having a partner EM - someone to blame for your own dance failings

[SwingWaltz]

Hehe we were practising yesterday, and it felt bit "meh"

I told DP, "Do it seriously" meaning that we both should do it seriously, but I guess it came out the wrong way.
She slapped me across the arm and told me "YOU DO IT SERIOUSLY". And we just cracked up laughing 

[elisedance]

what a great partnership you have.... I think we would probably also crack up - but physically..

[QPO]

As long as the criticism you are giving is constructive and you can explain it...in a tone that is not putting someone down. I can see no problem with it. Especailly between lessons, at a dance lesson I leave it to the teacher

[SwingWaltz]

As long as the criticism you are giving is constructive and you can explain it...in a tone that is not putting someone down. I can see no problem with it. Especailly between lessons, at a dance lesson I leave it to the teacher

We know we're mucking around. 

[elisedance]

I think that was pretty clear...

[Bordertangoman]

I know at least three ladies in England that would say that (one is no longer with us and two of them are). One of them also said the women of are better men then men. They know what women want and they don't have the muscles to push the lady. They therefore must learn to do everything very technically correct.

huh!

before I go on a chauvanist rant; I know some good lady leads and some bad ones

a rival tango teacher of ill repute keeps offering my ex-dance partner private lessons " Oh I can show you how to do that properly" ex replies but when btm leads me it always works.

evil snigger.......

[QPO]

I know at least three ladies in England that would say that (one is no longer with us and two of them are). One of them also said the women of are better men then men. They know what women want and they don't have the muscles to push the lady. They therefore must learn to do everything very technically correct.

huh!

before I go on a chauvanist rant; I know some good lady leads and some bad ones

a rival tango teacher of ill repute keeps offering my ex-dance partner private lessons " Oh I can show you how to do that properly" ex replies but when btm leads me it always works.

evil snigger.......

Now I can hear you do that...

[QPO]

we had a bad night tonight, I think we are tired...we both made mistakes, but no-one pointed the finger. We all have bad nights and you just accept them. I leave it too the teacher now.

[emeralddancer]

actually elise it is more likely better for me NOT to have an AM partner so I do not blame. The failings at this point I accept as mine, thus making me work much harder. 

[elisedance]

Very noble.  But I bet you are just a leeeeeeetle bit jealous that we actually never do anything wrong;)

[catsmeow]

this blaming your partner thingy has gotten out of control. in my last standard lesson I was taken to task by the male instructor for whining that I was unable to do a step because of my partner. now I dont remember whining but I do recall trying to explain what I was feeling and could pin it down to a particular whisk type movement. it was so uncomfortable and confrontational I had to change the subject in order to move forward in the lesson. I dont think I realize how arrogant I am or how unjustified my attitude is toward my partner. its unsettling to think if I change for the better that we will be two women dancing

[Rugby]

I think some of the instructors get tired of hearing the complaining, even if you do it so often that it no longer seems like complaining.  We all whine, it just depends on how we whine that creates the reaction.