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Spiral
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« on: October 22, 2010, 09:24:38 AM »

people who try to pick up at socials  Angry

Went to a social that turned into "how do I avoid this particular individual" and "why doesn't he get the hint?!" Not happy  Sad
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« Reply #1 on: October 22, 2010, 11:28:15 AM »

Oh dear...haven't I seen that too many times. Not on myself personally, but I get protective over my friends.

Um, it helps going to the social with a group of friends. Not saying that you only dance with those people, you can always invite other people for dance or arrange for a dance through progressives or make new friends. I think the fact that you are sitting together with a group of people deters certain individuals from constantly approaching you while unwelcomed.

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« Reply #2 on: October 22, 2010, 11:30:16 AM »

Oh, and one more thing, if you are certain that you want to avoid him.

Say "NO" EVERY time he askes you, 1 yes will give him false impression that you may be interested. They're like piranhas, one taste of blood and they go crazy.  Shocked
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« Reply #3 on: October 22, 2010, 01:11:44 PM »

Say "NO" EVERY time he askes you, 1 yes will give him false impression that you may be interested. They're like piranhas, one taste of blood and they go crazy.  Shocked
Right on.
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Spiral
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« Reply #4 on: October 24, 2010, 01:28:25 AM »


Um, it helps going to the social with a group of friends. Not saying that you only dance with those people, you can always invite other people for dance or arrange for a dance through progressives or make new friends. I think the fact that you are sitting together with a group of people deters certain individuals from constantly approaching you while unwelcomed.


that makes sense.

I should learn to ask for dances more often, and earlier. I usually wait to see who's left behind, and then ask who ever looks least threatening  Roll Eyes (I'm not very brave). And if I don't grab someone early enough, someone else grabs me.


Say "NO" EVERY time he askes you, 1 yes will give him false impression that you may be interested. They're like piranhas, one taste of blood and they go crazy.  Shocked

but how do you say 'No' without sounding rude?
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« Reply #5 on: October 24, 2010, 02:12:09 AM »

that is the million dollar question. How to say no withouth being rude.

I think in the end you just say no thanks and you dont have to give an explination...If they question you (if they are brave enough) you still say because I dont want to. always being every so polite. Roll Eyes
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« Reply #6 on: October 24, 2010, 06:33:48 AM »

Just say no thank you and smile.  If he asks you why then HE is being rude.
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« Reply #7 on: October 24, 2010, 06:36:39 AM »

but how do you say 'No' without sounding rude?

A simple "No, I'm not interested in a relationship with you" doesn't sound too rude. He might not like the response, but it's certainly not rude. And then if he still won't leave you alone, you're allowed to be rude Tongue
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« Reply #8 on: October 24, 2010, 06:50:19 AM »

Some guys just won't take "no" for an answer until you kick them in the nuts!  Lips sealed
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« Reply #9 on: October 24, 2010, 12:48:02 PM »

no eye contact, and a simple "not interested" when their overtures rudely penetrate your obvious lack of interest. done. Smiley
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« Reply #10 on: October 25, 2010, 07:00:55 AM »

Some guys just won't take "no" for an answer until you kick them in the nuts!  Lips sealed

gosh i am glad you are not a girl! Shocked
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