Friends....

[Bordertangoman]

well it is great that you have the ability to make friends....it is something that i encourage my children to do. the most important thing for me to give my children was self confidence and I believe I did that, a self belief it allows them to be confident it making the right choices and not be influenced by others.

I think there is a great case for congruence....ie saying what you think; I think shyness stopped from saying anything at all for years and when i spoke it was a mumble but life is too short and although I draw a line at telling my boss what I think of him, I think there is a lot to be said for Northern directness..

[QPO]

yes you can be direct and not be rude.....on the shyness I would not allow my children to be shy, one of the things we did was sing songs on the way to school while walking along the street  , and of course people would walk past and smile. The other place they knew of us to sing was at the supermarket !

[samina]

It sucks having people turning your friends against you!  

...if they can be turned, then they aren't your friends and 'people' are doing you a favor

was gonna say the same, here. but doesn't feel good, i know... hug

[samina]

Same happened to me. My mother called it "a spring cleaning of the friends you have". I think it is normal to change friends as you go through life. It is really the L/V at work here. When you change yourself, your choices or your surrounding, you do change the frequency that surrounds you. That will in turn change the people that can be around you and be comfortable around you.

good point. yep... BTDT as well... endings lead to new beginnings.

[QPO]

As much as they are important, I will stay friends through acquaintances , less complicated 

[QPO]

as I mentioned below....I think we have more acquaintances than we have friends. Which is not a bad thing, I think one of the reasons is about of emtional investment having a lot it can be very draining

[QPO]

friends, are few and far between, but the ones that are there are worth keeping and nurturing

[SwingWaltz]

It's not easy keeping friends.

[elisedance]

It's not easy keeping friends.

Its harder being a friend...

[MusicChica]

But there's only so much you can do if the other person's not interested in maintaining the friendship.

[elisedance]

...then its already died...

[Bordertangoman]

It's not easy keeping friends.

I think its a case of everyone is just too busy and out of sight is out of mind..

mind you I go for quality over quantity.. and I think I must be pretty unbearable.

[elisedance]

It's not easy keeping friends.

I think its a case of everyone is just too busy and out of sight is out of mind..

mind you I go for quality over quantity.. and I think I must be pretty unbearable.

'you would not be friends with anyone who would be friends with you?'

(with apologies to the marx brothers)

[QPO]

If I really think about it, I don't have many close friends. I only have one... and the rest are acquaintances. I don't have the time for the emotional investment, we are out most nights and training so you don't have time to speak with people.

But I enjoy having a chat after a social has finished we will go out for coffee, generally as a group not individual

[elisedance]

You need few enough friends so that you can interact and maintain the relationship but you also need enough friends so that if and when things go bad (illness, finance, etc) there is someone to turn to.  Of course, that means you have to be there for them too - so go back to the beginning