Art of breakup...

[elisedance]

So did she ditch you, or something? Sorry, can't follow the breadcrumb trail too well... Is it a mess because you're making it one by not leaving well enough alone and she's not putting up with it, or what? Confused, not really caring, just mildly curious before heading to ebay. I need earrings.

I think on a delicate issue like this it would be a good idea to read the topic first G   You actually have the whole thing confused and, in any case, we are trying to keep it on generalities not specifics. 

Perhaps you would care to rephrase

[Ginger]

I did read the topic (s) on it. Yes, (DUH)  I'm still confused, because it looks just like the other thread SW first called innocence on in reference to their similarities and aboutmeness. It's like if I post a thread subject: "Sigh *frownyface*" and then for the message body. "It's such a shame..." on one, then "OMG, this is *terrible*" and "I can't *believe* the rotten luck I'm having!" on another.

By reading the above "bait", you don't know *what* I'm talking about, and it's my sole goal to get backpats and "Oh, what's wrong?" instead of just saying "I'm so sad- I can't find Keebler Magic Middles cookies *anywhere*" instead of the "So I killed my partner and his cat with a screwdriver and buried them at the end of the house in shallow graves, a crop-duster saw me at work and ratted me out, so there's no way my alibi that I was in Mexico at the time will stick" which wouldn't garner much sympathy at all. It's wah-bait, but it has to be carefully laid so it doesn't look like just another "le sigh".

Instead of "let's keep it general", why not write it "Let's keep it warm, fuzzy, and when in doubt flatout lie so nobody gets hoit feewinks"? Don't ask "Do I look fat in this?" if you don't want to hear if you DO look fat in it.  It's like those dollar-store "Participation Award" ribbons. There are first, second, and third then there are ones like "I used the toilet by myself!", "I can put on my own socks!", and "Great Effort!"- it's colorful and pretty, but it's not giving the recipient anything that can benefit them like a good solid boot down the basement stairs and a handful of bullion cubes for dinner will

I frankly hope that his romantic troubles aren't finally getting the best of his dancing partnership by bleeding over into the mix- it's a lot to have on one's mind, that's all. Seriously- if you're winning championships, that means you're a good dancer, and you're partnered with a good dancer. Don't screw that up just because of a couple undescended vestiges. I don't *want* to say "I'm speaking from experience here, don't be a whiny douche", because unlike him, I'm trying NOT to be an emo tampon because fake, unwarranted petpets and praise make me squeamish, but geez, there ya go. Besides, if it's so delicate, what's it doing on the internet? Anyone remember the World of Warcraft funeral? This is like a Fay Wray movie- I keep screaming at the screen "Run, bitch! The werewolf's behind the curtains!" but the movie babe just KEEPS on getting narfed.

Not that I'd call myself civilized, but EVEN civilized people like ballroom dancers have spines- you should use them for something besides framework. Back to your regularly-scheduled drum circle...

[QPO]

As previously mentioned the two threads were quite separate to the other and unfortunately they have been diluted. SW like yourself are regular posters on PDO and this situation he finds himself in, is not comfortable and everyone deals with it in their own way.

What is good for you is not necessarily the approach of another. You are an up front person and still from some of your posts you are disappointed with peoples response or approach to someone you have said and done.

These things have a natural lifespan and SW will make his decision when he is ready.... With or without our validation.

[dancingirldancing]

Ummmm .... SW do you remember when you asked me why I would not divulge my identity over the internet ?

You thought because I have bad relationship with a lot of real life people ?

Well .... no this is exactly why.

A lot of people know who you are and now everyone sort of know that you have problem with your partner.

Even the ones who have no business of knowing... such as myself.

[SwingWaltz]

I have no problem with people knowing. That's not the reason I said I prefer to keep things general. If it was my concern, I wouldn't start the thread in the first place. I just don't want people on the forum getting sick of my personal problems. It's a place for open discussion.

[elisedance]

Actually SW - I really respect your position.  Good for you being able to face your issues up front.
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[QPO]

Actually SW - I really respect your position.  Good for you being able to face your issues up front.
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alot of people would rather ignore than face things....but sometimes with a bit of help and see other options that you may not have considered, it may give you the courage to fix things or decided that it is not really an issue....

[QPO]

[Ginger's post has been moved to a safe place to let the fire burn down.  Please carry on.
Ginger - I can give it back to you to modify a bit - I think if you read it you would realize that it was a bit too personal. ee]

Oh my goodness, who let madam lash out for the day...

You might have to buy SW a new shirt as the one he is wearing is shredded to pieces!

[Ginger]

Nah, no sweat- I was just quoting his "all about my personal problems" crap, was all. Everybody already knows the drill. Just because they don't say anything to your face doesn't mean they don't think it.

[SwingWaltz]

Nah, no sweat- I was just quoting his "all about my personal problems" crap, was all. Everybody already knows the drill. Just because they don't say anything to your face doesn't mean they don't think it.

Your point being?

[Ginger]

[Er, not helpful, Ginger... sorry.  -- C]

[ZPomeroy]

Ginger, i really feel your being extremely rude and harsh, not only to a valued PDO member, but to a very kind human being, comments like this and your previous long winded speech which had to be moved are not necessary. Please try and think about others before you post...

Zac

[QPO]

Please everyone remember to be tolerate and respectful to others views...Cheers

[catsmeow]

Hey Ginger your post stated what I was thinking but didnt have the balls to post.

[SwingWaltz]

Hey Ginger your post stated what I was thinking but didnt have the balls to post.

Then grow some!